Thursday, October 29, 2009

Establishing Priorities

So, while we're waiting for our little miracle to happen we've been talking about establishing some solid habits and/or routines for our family. If it's difficult for a childless couple to make each other a priority, I can't imagine how it is once a baby comes. I know all too well what it is to care for a baby or two; it's a full time job! I also know how important it is to make my husband a priority. I'm going to start working towards that goal and I think I know where to start - thinking less about me and more about him. Usually after work I do all kinds of things to take care of myself and I really don' t consider what things Phillip may need my help with. I schedule my workouts, plan healthy meals (for myself because he will have none of that), update my blog, schedule my relaxation time in front of the t.v., etc. All the while taking for granted that Phillip can take care of himself. I know he needs me even though he may not vocalize it often. I'll start with considering one thing each day that concerns him and his needs and do it gladly.

Hopefully this will help us put each other before anything or anyone else when kids come.

6 comments:

ashley said...

Wow, what an awesome post!! It is so true that once children come into the mix, it's difficult to make time to work on your marriage!! Thank you for the reminder to remember to take care of my husband too!! It's the little things sometimes that helps too!!

Anonymous said...

WOW! Imee, just want to let you know that you are still in my prayers. I have just refreshed myself with what you been up to these last few days. God willing you will have everything you need in your life. Hopefully a new bundle of joy.-Rachel Rodriguez

Anonymous said...

P.S. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!-Rachel Rodriguez

Elizabeth said...

Great post! A friend of mine shared a neat thing she learned at a bible study. The leader of this bible study has an appetizer for her husband every day when he comes home. Might be chips & salsa, might be some fruit, or it might be something a little more extraordinary. She lights candles & has a few minutes to sit down with him BEFORE dinner & it helps him transition into being home, mom into being there for him, adds a bit of romance to the day. . . haven't done it yet, but it sounds intriguing.

Imee Elizabeth said...

Love your comments ladies! Yes, let's make our hubbies priorities. Rache, thanks for the bday wish. Liz, I love that appetizer tip but Phillip is always home when I get here. I'd love for him to make me an appetizer .... wait a minute, "focus Imee."

Elizabeth said...

that made me laugh!!! This lady that does this has apparently been doing it for a looong time (she's an older lady). The part I found refreshing, but haven't exactly decided how to go about it, is that women are always waiting around for men to be romantic. Why can't we be? It might help on a lot of fronts. :-)